Sunday, February 23, 2014

The Unmade Bed


The Dream: I have rested on a bed in a place that is like a hotel room except that it has no walls. I've rumpled the bedspread, and although I haven't been under it (between the sheets), I have nevertheless degraded the bed from its pristine state. I am ready to move on, but feel guilty about leaving the bed unfixed. "Is it my responsibility to fix it?" I wonder. Would anyone know I messed it up if I don't? Should I have paid for my rest?

Interpretation:
There's an old saying, “You've made your bed and now you must lie in it,” meaning you've created an unpleasant or difficult situation and now you must live with it. In this dream I seem to be reversing this: I've lain in the bed, but refuse to make it. I move on, leaving the bed unmade and feeling guilty about it—nevertheless, I'm unwilling to take on fixing the situation. The dream points out that straightening this out would be a simple enough task.

5 comments:

Emily said...

I couldn't resist looking up idioms involving "bed": a bed of roses, getting up on the wrong side of the bed (in this dream there is no wrong side), get into bed with, hanging out your dirty laundry, put to bed, and a new one for me "couldn't lie straight in bed". A bed is such a terrific symbol. I may have mentioned this before, a bed is the place where (usually) we are conceived, born, and die. It's also the place of sleep and dreams. Our life is so transitory and in a way this world is our hotel because we cannot stay here permanently. This bed in a hotel without walls is showing me that there is something beyond my physicality - I am not confined to a place within walls after my physical essence is removed. I've left a wrinkle in time.

Carla Young said...

The last part of your comment resonated with me, because I had a dream that you were in last night in which we were moving from an interior space where it was raining to outside where it was sunny--in other words, we were moving into enlightenment. You were giving me choices of slippers to wear. All were too big, but one pair almost fit.

emily said...

Ah - what sweet dreams there are. When I think of interior rain, I think of grief. And moving out into the sun is yet another level of processing grief in my dream. I am reminded of the grief of my mother's and my brother's death almost 2 years ago. And the slippers - quiet on the floor, too big to fill, comfort. Leading a spiritual life, however that is defined, is a big challenge. Looking inward sensing for the right thing to do and bringing that forth into the world is yet another challenge.
Last night I dreamt that there was no room available at a hotel for me, despite my having made a reservation. My first thought about my dream was that my comments on your dream presented here were all wet! Then, I realized that the underlying suffering of my psyche comes from the feeling that I am excluded, separate, alone, and don't belong. My dream is processing those feelings so that once again I can feel connected to my inner self and to the outer Divine. A hotel is part of the collective, whereby beds and slippers are so very personal.

Carla Young said...

I didn't relate the first part of my dream that you were in, but I will now because it seems to speak to some of your feelings in the dream you had last night. The setting of the dream was your house, and a group of your friends were preparing a party for you. (You're not alone!) You suggested we go outside, and while I felt a little guilty about leaving the preparation to the others, I soon sensed that they wanted you out of the house so they could surprise you. It was clear that you are loved and important! Clark asked if he could come along, and that was okay with us. Then comes the scene with the slippers . . .

Emily said...

Thank you for posting the rest of your dream! What a great surprise to hear it!

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